physical health comes mental: a healthy mind in a healthy body.
In this text we will try to stand and to highlight the value of emotional health of children as well as to διεÏευνήσοÏμε how could the parents to promote the treaty. Let’s first talk about the basics. The basic needs of a child which parents are invited to take care of you. What is in need of a child?
-A warm home that accepts all of the members of the family.
-Positive example.
-Sufficient Independence.
-Firm and consistent limits.
Encouragement
1. Cultivate in the child the self-confidence and sense of worth. Emphasize the positive points instead to assemble your attention to the mistakes.
2. Avoid having children of your own expectations, what you expect, because children do not acquire their own targets, but they do “own” their expectations of the major.
3. Very often parents display unreasonable demands that children it is impossible to carry out (for example to be perfect in everything,what counts to us — sports, school – to have a clean room) and expect successes that are beyond their capabilities.
4. Often parents, without realizing it, growing competition between the two brothers. E.x. Can they praise the child has achieved and to ignore or criticize that which has failed.
5. Often demand perfection from their children and have too many ambitions for them.
6. Parents first have to act on what they ask for from their children. E.x. can’t the parent asks the children to gather their things while he never does.
7. Accept your children as it is, not as it should be. So with all of their imperfections and their mistakes.
8. Believe in your children so they can believe in themselves.
9. Recognize effort and improvement, as the final achievement.
Communication
Children need to communicate with them, to hear and to συντÏοφÎψουμε talking to us, much more than the physical care we provide. This means that I can hear the feelings of my child, even anger, of frustration and fear and I’m not getting in the process of criticism, preaching, or criticizing. I leave, therefore, to express their feelings, and even if you don’t agree, I can accept it.
Also, many times, children need help to think of various ways in which they can act. Parents can help in the search for alternative solutions and to choose the solutions that match them. We should not confuse the procedure for the search for alternative solutions with advice.
For example, when we say “Do this”, 1) doesn’t help children learn to solve their problems, but continue to depend on their parents, 2) a lot of kids react to the advice of either doubt or don’t do what their parents say, 3) if your advice doesn’t work, then who will be held responsible?
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Natural and logical consequences (rather than punishment):
One of the most common methods we use to discipline children is to reward when they obey and punish when they show disobedience. This is a method by which many current parents have grown up, but has the following disadvantages: it Prevents the children to make their own decisions and, consequently, to adopt rules positive behavior, implies that we expect the admissible behavior only to the people representing the power, causing the reaction because he’s trying to force the kids to comply.
Instead of reward and punishment, the alternative is the Natural and Logical consequences, which is a method that presents some advantages compared with the previous. What’s the difference? We explain to the child why something can’t be done, so that it is clear the “why”, and connect only with what is happening at the moment.
E.x. you can’t see the tv too loud because it’s noon, and your mother and I want to sleep, instead of… I don’t watch tv because the other day you didn’t eat your food. This helps the child to respect and understand that there are some logical and natural consequences for the things that we do.
Limits
The limits give the child the sense of security. Set fair limits and make sure these are complied with. You need to be consistent (keep the same position each time the limit is violated) and fixed (a limit does not change only when this is required, because the child grows up), but never excessive.
Love, trust, communication, warmth… words, concepts, and values that assume great importance in their application in practical translate, while remaining beautiful words when they are only theories… Let’s try it, let’s make it happen!
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Encouragement, communication, positive example: The mental health care of our children
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