Why are there so many women alone? Can’t blame just the men…

Xenia Ioannou
Maybe we are too demanding of you? Did we lose the spontaneity? Maybe we are scary…
Think about it. Get distance, be as objective as you can, and see that the psychologist mr. Minos is right. It is very easy to blame men for our loneliness, but maybe it’s our fault, too?
If you look around you will see women. A lot of women. Beautiful, colorful, dynamic. Full of confidence, ready to fight with lions and win without to be afraid of anything. Modern super heroines. That’s what we are.
But many of us end up at home alone. And just out of the heels, the makeup and fall into bed… the spell has resolved. The emotion takes the reins, and the loneliness is shouting the truth to us.
“It is a fact that nowadays we live in the era of alienation. The social contacts and, especially, the social interactions are less and less people every day are walking more and more in solitude” notes psychologist Dora Minos.
For a drink with friends, loud laughter, obnoxious, murderous self-sarcasm… and then nothing. We return home and pour it into the food. Or the crying. Or just enjoy the solitude, the peace, the tranquility. But that does not cease to be called loneliness.
And in the men’s camp is happening this, but I don’t carry so heavy. “More prone, however, seems to be women in relation to men and that they more to the more intense need of women for emotional security and support, which is increasingly difficult to find these days,” notes the psychologist.
What is to blame…
The messages of loneliness that come to TLIFE is a lot. Women alone. Girls only. Of course it’s the age and the alienation. Of course it’s the male behavior. But never the fault of only one. And the Dora Minos explains to us our own responsibility…
You know, when you realize the problem, only then can you and solutions.
“Today we see the woman more dynamic than ever, takes over more and more roles, is financially independent, autonomous, often, we see that channels the dynamism of the vocational activity and to make a career. At the same time, however, we see that all of these often do not stand shoulder to shoulder with a υγική and intimate partner relationship. More and more you see women alone, either because they have come out of a bad relationship, or why they avoid to get in a relationship either because you are not available to give the appropriate care they need in a relationship to maintain”.
Before you rush to react, think about it. Sometimes, or think, or explain them within us, but completely different behave. My best friend for example, works until the evening and comes back exhausted. I don’t have courage for anything. He’s just sleeping. And her boyfriend is complaining. Why don’t care about their relationship. She believes that it is making a superhuman effort. And yet, if you look at it objectively, he’s not trying. Has been dedicated to her work.
The power that it has… a weakness!
“Women today are marrying older, in an average age 30 – 35 years of age. Divide more easily. Decide to grow up many times only for their children, or even avoid to get in a relationship if you don’t meet “basic requirements”, adds mr. Minos.
“As you get older you change and criteria for the relationships, you become more demanding, less impulsive, you want to be in the relationship as much as you can “safe” with the result that the logic be levied on the feeling and find it difficult to take the risk required for a partnership. This is perhaps one of the equivalents that it pays the female sex for his development”.
“In addition, the procrastination that often has as a result to not invest emotionally in proportion and in interpersonal relations to put more high standards in the choice of partner, not to accept, and many of the peculiarities of the other” continues the psychologist Dora Minos.
It is clear that we have become very selective. We don’t lift fly on the sword. We want it all or nothing. We don’t settle. We don’t back down. Modern amazons in the open.
The men are scared. But those few who even dare have them castrated, they say. Took the minds of our air, they say, and for that we’re alone.
“Gradually we see that more and more confused the roles of the two sexes. The traditional role of the male hunter tends to disappear, the woman now claims more easily, rejecting, however, and more easily. This selfish behavior of the woman essentially removes it from the real emotional needs,” explains mr. Minos.
Is this syndrome, this perversion, this little monster that gets inside us and we become Xena. The super woman, the self-sufficient, with an attitude in hand you kills. It’s the same woman that will melt in tears a bit later.
Terrifying… woman!
“Men find it increasingly difficult to flirt, a lot of times scare you with the possibilities and activities of a woman and even when they start off the relationship many times they end up in a game of competition and power. However, it is important to mention that many of these things that are made in relation to the approach and the evolution of a partnership, as dynamic and to be a woman, as easily as it can and to reach out to a man, ends up in our time to feel so alone, then why not cease to seek the emotional security and the strengthening of women’s φιλαρέσκειας of a man”.
Sex vs companionship
“Relations very easily included the sex and less of the camaraderie, the care and acceptance. In addition, as a place where you see more and more one cannot help but feel the internet and this has as a result the relationship to become more and more impersonal while at the same time it is short-term and superficial. People relate to each other with more and more “frozen” emotions with the result they end up alone and unhappy” concludes mr. Minos.
With the valuable cooperation of the psychologist Dora Minos

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