New, scientific study has examined the sexual satisfaction – or dissatisfaction – in the heterosexual couples that are in long term relationships and what it is that…
helps to maintain sexual passion alive”. And here are the results!
The foreplay, setting the mood and the expression of love towards the partner are the factors that contribute to the preservation of passion, according to the findings of one of the largest, to date, studies that examine scientifically what it is that contributes to a satisfying long-term sexual life.
“Sexual satisfaction and maintain the passion was higher among individuals who had sex more often, they did more oral sex, were more often orgasms, incorporated a greater variety of sexual acts, taking their time to adjust their mood, and to exercise effective sexual communication,” said David Frederick, Ph.D., assistant professor of Psychology at the University of Chapman, and lead author of the study and continued: “Almost half of satisfied and dissatisfied couples were reading books of a sexual self-help and magazine articles, but what the satisfied sexual couples made above was that they tried some of the ideas”.
The study
The study involved more than 38.747 heterosexual men and women who were married or living together and were with their partner for at least three years. The average age of the sample was 40 years old for women and 46 years for men
To measure sexual satisfaction over time, were asked to rate their satisfaction from sex during the first six months of their relationship and of this phase.
The researchers found that the vast majority (83 %) of people reported that they were sexually satisfied during their first six months of the relationship. However, only half of the participants reported that it is currently satisfied (43 % of men and 55 % of women), while the rest felt “neutral” (16 % of men and 18 % of women) or dissatisfied (41 % of men and 27 % of women).
In the context of the study, the scientists examined the common romantic and sexual behaviors, which are rarely evaluated in the literature, but it is likely to contribute significantly to sexual satisfaction. For example, while the sexual variety is considered to be important for sexual satisfaction, there is no evidence on the effectiveness of specific forms – such as the shower together, sexy lingerie or use sex toys.
The results showed that sexually satisfied women and men engage in more behaviors of intimacy, such as cuddling, softly and deeply kissing and laughing together during the sexual activity, while incorporating in the sexual process a greater variety, like to try new positions or to carry out their fantasies more often. Also, regulating, in some way a romantic or sexual mood, lighting candles, or putting music and use communication effectively, saying “I love you” during sex, or by sending a text message, “sexual harassment” earlier in the day.
Finally, they found that the sexually satisfied companions did, and were receiving more oral sex, were more often in the climax, and they often have sex.
Some of the findings
About half of the satisfied men (49 %) and women (45 %) reported that their last sexual encounter lasted more than 30 minutes, compared with only 26 % of disgruntled men and 19% of dissatisfied women.
The “satisfied” were more likely than the “dissatisfied” to indicate that they tried a new sexual position, wore sexy underwear, took a shower or bath together, talked about their fantasies or made, did or made massage, have a romantic getaway, they’ve tried anal stimulation, they planned a date night for sex or used a sex toy (sex toy).
Only 59% of men compared with 42% of the women reported that they felt less desirable than their partner now than in the beginning. On the contrary, two thirds of men compared to half of women reported that they feel the same or more desire for their partner now, compared with the beginning of the relationship.
Most men and women stated that they felt the same or more emotional closeness during sex, now compared with the first six months of their relationship (69 % of men and 72 % of women), while less than half of the dissatisfied participants felt the same.
According to dr. Janet Lever, one of the authors of the study, it is encouraging to note that more than one-third of couples maintain the passion alive, even after one or two decades together. However, this did not happen by chance. “The couples have made a conscious effort to repel the routine in sex,” said the same.
The study was published in the inspection of The Journal of Sex Research.
Source
Scientific study: So you kept the passion alive in long term relationships
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