An original research by psychotherapist John Gottman reveals the 4 key mistakes that lead to a certain separation….
John Gottman In his book, The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work, presents useful tips for you to not drive a couple to the breakup. Through research and years of experience of weddings and couples, claims that by listening to just a dialogue of a couple for just 5 minutes can decide with absolute accuracy if the couple will divorce or not…
Well, the 4 errors, that in accordance with the ψυχοθεÏαπεφτή, leading to a breakup:
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The big mistake that many do with our partner is to criticize not the behavior for a specific event, but his character! Accept your partner with the good and the bad and try to understand that you can’t change the character of a man, but you can improve specific behaviors.
Irony and contempt:
If there is a problem in your relationship, don’t be aggressive or ironic, and obviously don’t need the name calling and the sarcasm. In any form and if expressed dissatisfaction with us poisons our relationship. If your partner understands your behavior that you despise the only thing that would accomplish would be to heat up the intensity.
Defense and continuous category:
It’s never the fault of only one in a relationship. He left the defense in place, and don’t blame only your partner, take the responsibilities of your appropriate, and try to find a solution that will satisfy both of them.
Denial is the worst consultant:
Stop making excuses to deal with a problem or a situation that in a “choking”. Denial is the worst counsellor, and away from your partner, while bringing you closer to the problems.
The surveys reveal that what destroys a marriage or a relationship is not the large differences that have the couples but the way you treat them. Most problems are not solved ever, and yet people insist they want to change the mind of the other. But that never happens. And that’s why almost all of the disputes of couples are based on fundamental differences such as values, lifestyle and personality.
The Smaro ΣωτηÏάκη provides for the week 9 to 15 May 2016
Each week, the Smaro ΣωτηÏάκη will be near us, with the emission of Star-words with detailed astrological predictions for the 12 zodiac signs and all developments concerning them for the new week…
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